Cadet, you said she gave me the "Gift of Time". Funny you say that. The other day I was flipping through the channels and I came across Andy Stanley (say what you will about televangelist, but for whatever reason I stopped and watched) he was talking about starting over and how "Time is your friend". I think my problem is (and always has been) I wanted it to be resolved when I think it should be...NOW! But if I somehow conned her into staying it would just ultimately lead to more resentment. I have the rest of my life to "win her back". Isn't that the ultimate goal here - to repair what we broke?
YES - DB101 - Patience.
Something most don't understand that doing NOTHING is really doing something!
