I hear you SparkSB. It's extremely tough to reconcile who they are now with who they were. I think part of this originates with who we think we are. We still love and have feelings for our S; however, the peon they have become creates too much cognitive dissonance and confusion for us so we cling even tighter to our older image.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016