You were kind enough to post on my board, so I wanted to offer my two cents. Also, I don't think your a WAH, just a successful DB'er.
I think that you are in a good place in terms of detachment and should stay that way. Probably not just a temp. check, but listen to the vet's on their thoughts (i am a NOOB). If I were in your situation I would remain detached and have no expectations of anything. I would however be open to counseling and taking things VERY slowly. From reading your sitch i know that you have been through a lot of hurt.
Don't set yourself up for more hurt but if you see genuine regret, repentance and acknowledgment from your WW for her actions and her part of the issues in the M, I think I would be open to try piecing. Time to set some clear boundaries of what you need (maybe reread piecing in DR,too) You have done all the work for your R thus far, Might be time to let her do the work now and just see where things go.
As long as you can remain detached and have no expectations, what do you have to lose?
I like the four questions that were asked of you too.
