Thanks for the feedback - that's why I'm here - to have my friends here keep me from completely shooting myself in the foot! I have no one to talk about this stuff with otherwise and I'm so thankful for all the advice and guidance. Thank-you!! You guys are right of course and I needed the reinforcement. I must admit that detaching goes against every natural instinct that I have - normally I would pursue, pursue and pursue but admittedly this has never really worked in the past. I don't think the handholding thing was a complete screw up on my part but I was concerned that it was so was overthinking it for a few days but I have not pursued since. As for the sex, I was not going to pursue that but just in case for some crazy reason my wife did I just wanted to be prepared for what I should do. I suppose if she initiates it's fine but otherwise stay clear of it. She would shoot me if I initiated this right now
My problem right now is that between work, kids hockey schedules and trying to study there is no time for me to get out of the house and do some things on my own. I feel a little frustrated as it is probably slowing the progress I could be making with GALing but it is what it is and I have to stick to my studying to get through this exam hopefully in the next month or so.
I guess I still don't know what I should be doing in the meantime. We still do most things together socially with our friends so I guess I just need to stay upbeat and positive, laugh and be confident, be a good guy and, as Cadet suggested, lower my expectations (I'm working on this - easier some days than others).
