possible benefit is she avoids doing things that will hurt me and think how her actions affect our R even if its just co parenting.
As for the divorcing me. This has never came out of her mouth. Maybe just wishful thinking on my part but all that has been mentioned was S, she was needing space to see it her feelings for me came back, that she wants them to, she just needs the space to give it a chance.
If that is the case then there is two side to that, I need her to respect my feelings and if I am to want to have nay type of R with me she need to show me that she can interact with me truthfully and respectfully.
I know how this sounds but I have kids with her, divorced or not we are going to have to interact.
Maybe my thoughts are not correct but this is what I am feeling and I want to tear a strip off her for last night. How can I trust her at all right now. With the S so close to being signed and with so much trust needed to sign it, how can I trust anything she has said.
This has set us back, on the rad to S and I want to tell her that.
Vise,
she does not give a fcuk about your feelings. I know it is hard to believe, but it is what it is.
I am sorry to be bursting your bubble, but her saying that she needs space and time to sort her feelings is crap, you have to realize that. Ask Sandi if you do not believe me. And us poor schmucks we go thinking Oh, just a week or so of being apart and we're back in business. Her saying she needs time to sort her feelings is just to ease her guilt towards you.
Ok, for the sake of the argument, let's assume that she has romantic feeling to the gay neighbors. That would mean that she (currently at least) has no romantic feelings towards you. And believe be, she bloody well knows how you feel about her going to the neighbor's, and guess what, she does not give a fcuk... Does she touch you in an affectionate way? Does she kiss you? Are you allowed to touch her? Well I would be hugely surprised if your answer is yes to any of these questions.
You tearing her a new one for seeing the neighbor will only make you look weak and pathetic. And what will you do if (when) she decides to go over again? Again a hissy fit?
Vise, my friend, she currently does not respect you or your feelings and for her feelings to resurface, she will have to respect you first...
