Well, lots of things have happened in the meantime. STBXW kept saying that, fortunately, she did not have to sell her body to get food for her table. She said that someone else in her situation would have gone to our bank account, withdrawn half of it and hide it. I replied that someone in my situation would have cancelled all her card the day after she left home. She added that from the moment I said I could spend the money I earn the way I want it had been proven that we were not equals. We then decided that she should open a bank account on her name and that I would transfer enough money for her expenses for the next four months. She can do whatever she wants with that money. I have done that and STBXW has given me the debit card for our joint account cut into small pieces.
I just read this and the prior post.
Listen...quit apologizing!!! For crying out loud. WW is like a darn spoiled 4 year old throwing a fit, and you're following her around begging your little princess to be nice.
Or worse, you're wasting your breath trying to explain yourself or defend yourself.
ACTIONS speak louder than words. Want to show her change? Stop playing this stupid game. The game where you try to show her you're a good man. You WILL NOT WIN THIS GAME. So don't play.
You don't need her validation. Don't quibble with her. I know, it's fun to think of some snappy come backs. I would've used "The moment you unilaterally destroyed our family we weren't equals". But just because she's acting nasty, doesn't mean you have to get everyone on your side, her especially. That just becomes YOU acting nasty.
However distant she is being, be more distant. You say you're done with the drama. Good. Stop fixating on it and get back to YOUR life. What are your 180s? Your GAL activities? Your goals?
Whenever I read someone's sitch and it's 90% WAS and <10% DBing I know they need to turn the focus back to them. You've got this. Now make it happen.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
