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Hi Rouky, just read your exchange with Huddy about legal separation. I'm also from the UK and TBH, this was my preferred avenue. Our sequence of events was H approached me about selling our marital home (we also have a flat in the city that he is using and I am renting a flat ATM.) My L advised me only to agree to a sale as part of full financial settlement. I suggested to H we legally separate and resolve all financials as part of this. H said he only wanted to resolve financials as part of D. I said D isn't what I want and he filed for D.

Somewhere in amongst this, my L suggested I change my will, which I did. However, most of my assets are tied up in our marital home and the basis on which we own that would have meant the house went fully to him anyway. But changing my will did mean that my pension/death grant would go to others. I didn't find UK law that helpful with separation. It can be done as long as both parties agree that is what they want. A separation agreement can be reached. However, from what I understood it isn't legally binding - tho the courts do place 'significant weight' on the contents - and would likely only change provisions if something big happened which changed 'needs' after that. I asked my L what sort of change (redundancy?) no - she said. Think more car accident and disabled as a result.

Hope this helps a little. I would certainly encourage you to take due steps to protect your interests. Allow yourself some time and benefit from a few free half hour consultations. Also, if you can get a recommendation, that is helpful. The L I chose was recommended and I have spoken to someone else who told me she was recommended to him too. I have been happy with her input.

Good luck & take care xx