Vise i am just reading part of your stitch and i feel for you man. It's a tough place to be in the beginning. Vapo nailed it on page 8. It truly does get better. I for one isolated myself and didnt believe i would get through with this. Until i finally accepted what is and dropped the rope , boy do i feel like i am flying. Dont get me wrong yes i still miss my w and would agree to reconciliation but at the moment i am happy alone.
But where it will get emotional it's when you drop of your kids at moms house and wont see them again for 2 weeks. When your kid hugs you and tells you "i want to go with you daddy dont leave me" ooohh man! thats when i just want to slap my w and tell her " cant you see this? cant you see the damage you are causing"?
Regarding your interaction with your W. Treat her and every conversation and txt like a business transaction and straight to the point. Let her know you mean business and you are on top of the world. HEy is her lost!! I am going through custody battle and divorce court at the moment. And i love when W txt me dumb things that i really dont need to answer like " hey D3 is missing her head band" Well i just completely ignore those txt and i know it pisses her off. Because before i would answer in 10 sec or beg her and tell her sorry. NOt anymore buddy! Vise , it gets better brotha, hang in there you will make it. I know it.
Vapo nailed it with asking you to leave it to the man up stairs. Leave your troubles to God. Dont worry about it anymore. Ever since i did that, his comfort peace and grace has been poured over me. Blessings to you!
