I posted this on my thread which is a copy of what Zues posted on Fo thread. I think it may help:
"Zues wrote this on Fo's thread yesterday and it opened my eyes. He wrote "Remember- if you can't enjoy your life the way it is today...with your children, your gifts, your friends, your health, your freedom, your safety...then God giving you back your H won't change the fact you're going to be a miserable person." This is so simple yet brilliant."
You may be making your happiness conditional on your marital situation. My instructor at the meditation center I used to attend told me once of what his instructor said to him once. My instructor asked him how he was and he responded "I have many problems and I am very happy." When we cling to attachment we set ourselves up for negative emotions. Enjoy your babies, I wish mine were young again. Peace
