Where will we go from here

[Sparkls]

We (Pa) don't have it as part of the divorce process but they exist. Your L may know how to get them involved. But I agree. I think having another third party involved to sit down with everyone may be a good idea. It may not help but if a neutral third party tells your wife she's being a d*ck, it may go a long way to at least putting a damper on her hate speech.
It may do nothing but I think it's worth looking into.