Eyes forward Sotto..

[BrightFuture]

Hi Sotto, I still keep the things from my H, the cards, some items he gave me, the clothes he bought me, and I also wear a ring that he gave me on one of our anniversaries. I don’t wear the wedding ring. Well, it is not exactly the wedding ring, he gave it to me after 4 years of marriage. He just thought that I didn’t need a ring, since it was my second marriage. He never wanted a ring himself and I respected his wish. I love this ring though, it has a pink diamond. I’m planning to get it resized and wear it on the right finger.

I don’t know why, but all the items (including the cards) do not bother me anymore. I used to cry when I opened one of these cards from H, where he was telling me that he loved me so much. I don’t open these cards anymore, I know they are there, and that someday I will be able to read them without sad feelings.

Pink’s post made me think…

You are pleasant with him, more like business like. Who knows if in his head he thinks that you were so done with him and it is something that he may try to avoid because he will be rejected in many ways.

Reading an email or text is not really enough, there are interpretations and the guessing game there. What for you may be polity, pleasant, positive, validating... can be for him that you just take care after business.

This is exactly what crosses my mind quite often. And in my case, just like Pink mentioned, neither of us gives each other a closure. I’ve been thinking about the temperature check as well, but I’m like you, not eager to put myself out there without any indication of H’s intentions. As far as I can tell, he is still dead set on his decision, even though not filing for D and giving me the mixed signals, especially lately.

I think I’m like you, gradually accepting the reality and trying move on with my life. Take care.