I guess my course is one of inaction and waiting. I am struggling with Boundaries. Other then the Open marriage aspect I don't really know what boundaries I can put in place. For religious reasons I really don't want to file without knowledge of a PA which I have none.
She does try to get extra cash from me over what I am giving her for the kids and I recently put my foot down and told her I was doing the best I could. I wish I could have included something like this was your choice, maybe you can no longer afford to do xxxx, but I just said I couldn't give anymore. Thoughts for next time?
Why am I such a wet noodle? <--rhetorical Q... I really don't know where I should be standing up for myself as she is mostly civil. The OM and game addiction is my only issue, which I really can't do anything about. Although I am glad I am learning more about boundaries because I am sure I will need them @ some point.
I know that she still see's me as a safety net and not sure how to change that. L's advised to continue paying for the minor things I am to not rock the boat. I just think that if she will ever be back, she is going to have to leave first to experience reality.
