Where will we go from here

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Wow, Tim. I'm late to the game regarding the text. But agree w/ Thornton & Sparks. Treat it like 'the kids' or 'property' stuff.

All I can say is...it's NOT all your fault. Of course we make mistakes. But...from your story...your W checked out a long time ago.

To boot...have you had the conversation about the abortion since? Do you suspect it wasn't yours? That is not something just swept under the rug. You can't just 'move on' and act like it didn't happen. That would be a 'life event' man....nothing remotely small about it. And the 'family honeymoon' stuff regarding not being with you. Really out of bounds. So..much in your story.

Thornton's eval as a 'rescuer' is spot on. I'm not 'full on' when it comes to that...but my codependency and desire to fix and control situations makes me one as well.

Know that being a 'rescuer' doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. You are altruistic. You believe the best in people and want to make things right when they are wrong. All VERY positive things...but our downfall? We do it at the expense of ourselves SO often.

Lean in and take care of yourself, Tim. Thanks for sharing your story