Now, the real work begins...Part III

[Nel]

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So, how many feel like this:

I long for the day when I don't go to bed thinking about my sitch or waking up thinking about my sitch. I would love for the knot in my stomach that has been there for 7 months to go away....

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Broke-I know exactly how you feel. It can be all consuming which is why it is important to keep busy. I've found that being busy helps keep my mind off of H. It is not easy because it almost has to be a conscious decision. Do things that make YOU feel good, whether it's a massage, shopping, volunteering, or just being out with friends. I've read so many stories that once the spouse sees that you are moving on and continuing life without them that sometimes they will "wake up." Since it's only been a month that you've been DBing, it is going to take time. Like you, with a D in progress, I feel the time clock is ticking, but we can't control what our H's do; we can only control our own actions.

Nel