that is the same thing my DB coach said. Even in an A you do not want to be bitter and show her what she wants to leave, you want to show her what she should not want to leave. Listening is great bending over backwards to help is not, IMHO.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
