"Sorry to hijack Spark, but how does this all work if the your WAS says the A is over or is still hiding it?"
HopeRB, I think if the R talk starts and WAS says the A is over or still hiding it, you should refer to Sandi's conditions and start with the End the A letter. Make that your new 1# condition to R.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16