LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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I am angry......
I often miss the good times we had in our M....but then I'm reminded of how controlling and manipulative she was. If things weren't the way she wanted it then she would blow up. I'm reminded of the explicit sex messages she sent the other men, the naked pics, the way she would text them right in front of me. She would take phone calls from them and walk outside to talk to them. The way she would shove it in my face and tell me how great he was and how she wishes she was f'ing him right now. This didn't just happen once. This happened several times during the last couple months we lived in the same house. I'm reminded of how just in December she told me she would say things to me about the other men to hurt me. This statement wasn't followed by an apology. It was followed by
WXW: "I did this to hurt you because you do things to hurt me"
Me: "What do I do to hurt you"
WXW: "You put on cologne to go out. I know you're not going out to hang with the guys. You're going out to pick up women or to smell good for your girlfriend"
Me: " I didn't know this was hurtful to you."
Her: " well I asked you not to wear it"
ME: "no, what you said was - Don't spray that in here- I didn't know it was hurtful to you. I'm sorry I hurt you and in an effort to get along I'll not spray cologne on in the house as long as you are still living here. "

D4 then entered the room and the conversation ended. Over the last couple months of us living in the same house she admitted she said things to intentionally hurt me, that she knows it was wrong of her to say hateful things about my family and friends but never did she apologize. I've have had conversations with her asking her if she thinks it's ok to talk to me the way she does or say the things she says to me. Her response everytime was to blame me for her behavior.

She may never be able to take responsibility for her actions/behaviors. She may never come to a place of remorse or be willing to apologize. If she doesn't then I don't want her anyway.