Yesterday the WW surprised me, my family, and her Mom. She dropped off some beautiful flowers and a heart warming hand written card at the house the family was gathering at for the Life celebration. It was surprisingly thoughtful. Side note, our families are incredibly close! Our parents are best friends and do everything together from Sunday Brunch to vacations. My parents actually stay with her parents when they come to town a few times a month.
Then she actually sent many text to her mom and opened up communications again. It has been months. I'm happy to see that for my MIL, she has been so worried.
Then last night she initiated a conversation, asked me how I was doing. I talked briefly and was pleasant. Telling her that I appreciated the flowers she delivered for the funeral and that I was doing well. Then asked her how her school/test went. She talked for about 15min, I listened and validated her. She mentioned that she has been very stressed, unable to focus, scatter brained, and confused the last few months. This was about forgetting kid stuff, failing test, not doing well in her very part time job, etc… I validated again then, I politely ended the conversation as I need to get to bed for an early morning (not hanging on to the conversation).
In the last few days/week I’ve seen tiny glimpses of the woman I married but I don’t believe anything will change. Most of the time she is still the cold, heartless, and angry, WW. She has treated me with respect ever since she returned to the house and has been doing my laundry, cleaning, etc...
As I re-read this post and my last few it is very clear that I am NOT detaching well. I am still reading into everything she does and I have to stop that. Any suggestions to help? I am still GAL’ing great! Going out tonight with the guys for Cigars and Scotch.
Thanks everyone for you support, I wish I could post more but it’s been hard to find the alone time and I was very sick for the last few days.
