I also think that what you thought was good or working was you just feeling better because there was interaction. It was more than likely a habit for her.
You need to get out of the way a bit and see what happens. Record what results appear.
I battle the same as you though. I feel a lot better with good interaction but it is counter intuitive for me because i then crash back down.
What is right? dont know. But nothing really has changed on her end except we feel comfortable around each other when we are.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15