I would tell any H to not permit a child to start sleeping between him and his W. It builds a wall between H and W, and it develops into a terrible habit for the child. Even if the child slept on the other side of the W, it would not be a good situation for the MR. I feel that many women do it intentionally to keep the man from initiating sex. She has a built-in excuse of the child always being in the bed and she might wake up.
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Sadly, we made no efforts to talk about our problems before I found out about OM. We had no previous affairs in our relationship that I know of. I searched her phone and found the texts because I noticed that she was on her phone more than usual. I'm not proud of snooping, but I couldn't help myself. That same night I approached her about just wanting her to be happy. I'm sure I caught her off guard. I had no plan and was acting calmly, but impulsively, if that makes sense. She said that she didn't want our daughter to come from a broken home, but that she couldn't live like this anymore. She also said she wasn't sure if she could financially handle living in our house by herself. Than she left to go be with our daughter.
You need to decide how you will respond if she wants to continue living under the same roof, but not giving up her OM. Would this be a deal breaker for you?
Hi Sandi, I think I misunderstood the question originally. The answer is yes. If we continue to live under the same roof, and she doesn't give up OM, that would be a deal breaker for me.
I'm in the process of downsizing from the home, so that I can move out fairly quickly if necessary. I feel like I'm prepared to end the M, but there's still some doubt in my mind. There's decisions that hinge on the status of getting a D, like if we're going to continue to send my daughter to private school. The decision deadline is in 2 weeks, and she told me yesterday that she hasn't decided yet. Does that mean she's still undecided on D?
