...During one of our talks she brought up that she remembered the first time that I didnt say "luv ya" before I ended a call to her.
It sounds to me by this tidbit that it's working. She's missing you, and is beginning to pursue.
In sales, one of the greatest tools is "the fear of loss". A good salesman uses it to his greatest advantage. This is where they will employ "the walkaway". You've got to employ the walkaway. And you are - and it's a scary thing to do because it could end negotiations. But at this point, it sounds as if your W is also experiencing the fear of loss.
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)