The book definitely says to stop saying "I love you". Isn't the point of detaching for them to miss you? Sounds like she is missing the affection of I love you and kissing....IMHO, maybe that is what is supposed to be happening for her to wake up and see what she will lose. I am definitely no expert at this DB'ing, but that's my take.

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16