I Still Think It's Too Late (pt 2)

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Tim,
And, I probably - well not probably - definitely went off DB protocol here. I took offense (not too strongly) to being accused of hacking her computer and trying to sabotage her business. This does neither of us any good.

And to have her say I refused to give them a password or help them - all I could do was envision the collective eye-roll back here after being chewed out for helping them as much as I did.

Like I said, I gave her a day-by-day breakdown of this whole password thing, and then forwarded the emails to back it up. Only once, one time - did I refuse to give her the password - or more specifically I refused to go in and remove myself as administrator for the PC. That was the day I found out the W had changed the padlock on the storage unit. That was a Saturday and on Monday I thought better of it and gave them 2 options to go with.

In fact the days leading up to this - I said I would help them but they needed to clarify (or the assistant) what "password" she was talking about. Then - I say I'll come in, just give me a time today because I'm free. I don't hear anything for a day, and the next message I get is "well, we've decided not to wait for you and moved on" or something to that effect.

I send a "WTF?" and it turns out the assistant thought she had sent me an email, but sent it to everybody but me.

Can this get weirder? Oh that's right, you're giving me a run for the money, aren't you Tim?

Anyway, I sent the emails, spelled out I didn't appreciate being accused of these things - and then threw out the biggest clue for why the assistant's one drive isn't working.

she. needs. to. be. logged. on. to. her. microsoft. account.

Some IT guy if he can't figure that one out. There's several ways to go about sharing the drive. The IT guy figured out how to take me off, but apparently didn't figure out logging the assistant on with her new PC. Plus, I've got no idea what her account is, or the password. Again, I said write it down.

I actually got a photo of a package that arrived at the house, with acknowledgement it was there only minutes ago.

This is as positive a step as I've seen. I had photographic equipment arrive there because the mailman ignored the address, and "knew" where I lived. She never told me there were packages there - and I almost lost these guys. Why would they send me free stuff for evaluation and review if it disappears?

I have a sneaking suspicion that the W did look at the assistant's texts and saw that I've been treated like crap for almost 2 months. Plus the "you're not a man" thing out of the blue and unprovoked. That's the W's territory! Plus, an answer back from me that might have embarrassed the W at the very least.

Ok - now you!
The advantage you've got if you could call it that is your Son is old enough and smart enough to know what's going on. When I was young and very close to that age (15) - I understood that my Step Dad had no obligation to have much of anything to do with me. But he did, and while we were often at odds, I loved him for giving a crap. My Dad was nowhere in the picture and could have been. I understood the difference, nobody was stopping him.

Your Son is going to be able to tell who's doing what. He's got a brain of his own, and could even start to resent his Mother for doing these things. She's playing a dangerous game. He's not 7 years old.

Continue doing what you're doing. Be there for him when you can. He'll realize who's stopping what. He'll know you haven't bailed, rather you can't get past a wall. At this age he needs a Father figure more than ever.

I hope he's not aware of what your MIL is doing on social media - or is he? The courts would frown on this sort of behavior I would venture to guess.

Well, it looks like we got through one more day - huh?