I was thinking about you...glad you checked in. I liked to "poke the bear", too when I found out about the affair. I think I thought if I was myself that it would "let him off the hook". So, I sent nasty texts and emails, raged at him and made his life (and mine) miserable. You know what....it just made him more sure that our marriage stunk and he needed to get out of it. That the OW was a way better person that me. So, I stopped acting angry (I am still very angry). But, it has helped my kids see us be civil and it has helped us with a parenting plan, etc. And, honestly, I am not an angry, spiteful person. That's just not who I am. It will take some time, but you will realize that poking the bear is more energy than it's worth. Besides, it is up to God and karma to figure out what cheating spouses deserve :-).
Anyway, I think your idea to focus on your happiness and not let his mood define you is right on the mark. Focus on your happiness and your kids. Stay strong!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
