NYGal, I would encourage you to watch her patterns of contact. How do you guys leave off each time you enter a period of no contact? My H tends to go dark after I've affirmed him or said something nice. Not sure what that's all about. Early on in the process, I started noticing my H's pattern of contact - if he didn't hear from me after two weeks of darkness, he'd reach out. He was doing this up until recently so now I'm trying to figure out the new pattern. This was back when I would pursue him, he'd toss me some breadcrumbs, I'd make a meal and then back to NC. But I've pulled back from that so I'm experimenting and monitoring results at this point.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
