CWOL: If there was an OM, then of course it would change my gameplan. Truth is...I've been looking at her emails for months (up until a month ago) with no evidence at all. I've been looking over her shoulder at text messages...trying to check them when I hear her phone. I've driven by work to see if she was where she said she was, etc. I've done this since October of last year. And...I've found no 'hard' evidence. Some minor circumstantial...but nothing concrete...and I've been VERY alert.
I know it's still possible that there is EA/PA...but I can't find any real evidence. Would have install a network sniffer, or hire a PI to go any further.
I was gaslighted by my WW in January. She told me she stopped contact with OM, but something didn't feel right. I checked her cell phone and FB and nothing... Then I went and did a physical search of our guest room where she's sleeping and bingo, found a stash of documents showing that she was preparing to file for D. I also found that she was able to get a secret second phone to communicate with OM, her Enabler friend got it for her.
Never be too confident. Always be alert. You don't have to be neurotic but don't be complacent. I was sure my WW was "secured" until people told me what she was doing is not Recovery. That's when I found the Truth, which is key.
There's always a reason for something happening.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
