11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Thornton, I get so much out of what you say. I wish we could meet.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
NYGal, I would encourage you to watch her patterns of contact. How do you guys leave off each time you enter a period of no contact? My H tends to go dark after I've affirmed him or said something nice. Not sure what that's all about. Early on in the process, I started noticing my H's pattern of contact - if he didn't hear from me after two weeks of darkness, he'd reach out. He was doing this up until recently so now I'm trying to figure out the new pattern. This was back when I would pursue him, he'd toss me some breadcrumbs, I'd make a meal and then back to NC. But I've pulled back from that so I'm experimenting and monitoring results at this point.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
After new years I committed to NC for a month. We had to have limited because of kids, but I felt a lot better. It was hard.
I think you need to give a certain time length as a goal. Really try. You will be surprised that she will not forget you. When we did have to communicate again. Things were actually better and still are. Not back together or r talk yet.
But I am scared of pushing for that. I may be going for another bout of nc then swing what happens.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Our contact has been minimal. It might be just seeing her somewhere, or an email about a house account or something. Last Friday she came to my office and tossed some breadcrumbs. I do need to be more patient. Actually, yes, now that I think of it, when we did not contact each other for about 10 days, that's when she just showed up one day. And it was then that there were about three weeks of her saying over and over that she missed me and wanted our old life back. But I probably was too receptive to that, and didn't play hard to get. So she would back away again. I'm usually a very strong and determined person, but this is not so easy and I can't get her out of my mind.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Rouky, did you ever find the Divorce Busting web page?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
