Talked to a L this morning. She told me I would probably get a significant time for custody but could not say I would get 50/50 custody as a biological parent would. L told me that using the threat of pulling in biological dad may be a good strategy. Bc she may not want that can of worms opened. Since W is not thinking anything close to rationally IDK. IDK that she would consider it a bad thing or she how she would react. Friends are all telling me to file for custody and I am again leaning that way, even if it means no more hope at R.
Did the lawyer tell you what strategy to use? Legally I would do what is best for you and not worry about what will help you reconcile or not.
Legal divorce is not the end. People do get re-married.
Standing is about keeping your side open to reconcilliation, not what she does.
