Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Bat signal for sandi. Could you please take a look at the last few pages of my sitch and give your honest thoughts?
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Glad to see the forum back up and running, I was going through withdrawal haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Anyway, in the world of uphill... XF is still on the colder side of the street. She didn't completely shut me out but has been shorter with her words and doesn't initiate as much contact as last week. I have toned back my approach to match hers. I still reach out once a day or so just to say hi, thinking about cutting that out completely? Last week it was recieved very well but as mentioned the responses are shorter so maybe it's best to just eliminate that for now. I just didn't want to look like a jerk by stopping completely as if I was angry.
I looked at that both ways. By being a bit cordial and saying good morning, it reinforces what we had talked about last week that we are on very good terms lately. On the other shoe, it makes me a friend which isn't what I signed up for. That is how I decided on middle ground, just a short message that makes me look like a good person.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I struggle with the friends vs. not friends as well. Since I stop acting on all my anger about 3 weeks ago, it seems like my WAH thinks we are best buddies. I am trying to walk the line of not being cold, but also not being his friend. I put together some boundaries that I am trying to stick to and I am focused on being civil yet abrupt. It's very tricky. But, sounds like you have a good plan to not pursue - I know it must be so tough after you thought you were on the path to reconciliation. Keep it up
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
I would agree that a daily text seems like a lot. I would certainly try extending that to a few days. In my sitch, it has extended to a few weeks now - but then we don't have a child together...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
