Feeling lost

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I suppose what I'm asking is if anyone can help me determine if it is a WW, WAW or MLC as I have read they are approached slightly differently.

I also want to know how much to detach, I can't go completely dark due to kids, so do I become neighbourly, or will this do more damage if I have pigeonholed her wrongly (i.e think MLC but actually WAW?)

What about "family" days with kids, I want to make certain I'm approaching things properly. Up to now we have both been making an effort on days out for the kids so things are normal for them. Should this continue or due I pull back and refuse to share "my" time with teh kids with her?

The reason I'm uncertain is probably because I previously withdrew due in response to overbearing MIL and FIL, so not sure if this is "more of the same" or a 180 I need to do.

Finally what about in MC, I know I have to listen and acknowledge what she says but I feel the counsellor is trying to moves things on to a place I don't want to go (maybe D?). Do I put the brakes on this? Or do I ensure I get everything off my chest? In essence how to I DB in MC?

Thanks to everyone out there so far, it's a lonely place, and I'm moving on with GAL as best I can.