I will say that I too am very 'inpatient'. Kind of like..."I'm busting my tail over here, trying to improve who I am for our R. I'm reading books, I'm going to the gym, I'm posting to online forums looking for wisdom"....so WHY isn't it making a difference in HER?
Well the truth is...you CAN'T make a difference in her. The sooner you can fully internalize that...work on yourself, etc...it will start to put you in a better place. I am only at beginning stages...but it can be very liberating when you realize that no matter if your W is a WW, or a WAW...she is responsible for that. You have to 'own' your issues in the relationship...and work on improving you. She has to 'own' her part...and improve her.
Toughest and most valuable lesson I've learned so far. I can't FIX my W. But...I CAN fix me.
Ojap M 13 T 15 D 11 D 11 D 9 BD #1: ILYBNILWY 09/2015 BD #2: W asks for S 12/2015 ---------- Currently: Limbo
