Feeling he's in MLC, but in D process

[peacetoday]

Hi C

I like your attitude
Like that You have a L

I think they do a lot of touch and goes
they are confused by the feeling they still feel for us while at the same time being hooked to ea/lady and some fantasy life
They seem to opt for the most fun way and the new R does offer a bit more freedom and excitement

So I think they will often choose to loose everything to live out the fantasy and perhaps they lie to themselves all along the way
and in the end when the D is done do they really realize what they are losing financially

MY XH lost everything in our D..house, business, kids
I don't think either of us planned on him walking with absolutely nothing except 1/2 his clothes and his car..It just worked that way ..he could not handle the pressure and the losses, most all his choice though, so he left the state with OW..no contact for many years now-
MY situation is probably more rare than some here, but still shows the mind of the MLCer

You sound clear and grounded and you seem like you have a plan
Good luck on this journey