My sitch is not as dire as it may have seemed from my post. W & I have been going to couseling for 3 months. I can't say that I've seen much progress, but we are talking about our issues on a regular basis, which is a good thing.
Quote: I was fully convinced that it is the honorable thing to do the eyes of my family, friends and marriage vows.
I'm still in this mode. Perhaps because I think there is a reasonable hope for us.
Quote: If she (like in my case) thinks that the marriage is already great, then you need to go to plan B. which is to also include that you won't stick around for anything less.
Fortunately W does not this everything is great between us. She initially approached me about MC. And I wholeheartedly agreed. And I have told her in a C session, the a fear of mine is that the pain of our situation could grow to the point where I perceived that D would be less painful that staying. I have no doubt my life would be painful without her. She is an awesome mother and wife in almost everyway except for providing the intimacy I need. Fortunately I don't have the allure of other women flirting/hitting on me. I never have been the type that gets that reaction from women. If I did I could see my sitch being much for painful.
