HoneyPot,
I understand what you're saying-- but don't think it applies in my case. I did not know I was HD, technically I was still a virgin. He was a real ladies man, the one who had lots more experience sexually... So he was not wowed by my experience. Things changed-- in part, when he became sober but I don't think that was the only factor. Mostly I think it was a passive aggressive way to control me.
Nah, this was NOT a safe guy when I met him... I thought I was on very dangerous turf. Typically, I have a weakness for bad guys. But with age and experience and tears, I've learned that I want him to be bad with me and me alone.
On a happy note, I have no trouble being attracted to the HD men you mention, that's my "type". Now that I'm old enough that most men my age have a history, I'm just a little leery of those whose history includes habitual cheating. I guess I want it all-- someone who will make love with me, but not with others.
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