Feeling lost

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I have read the link cadet has provided (thanks) but still need some advice on how to treat my situation.
I have been trying to salvage things by myself up to now and have been doing many of the DB things already, but there has not been much change in W attitude to R.
I most want to know if I have a WW or WAW - she did say when moving out that she had bottled things up for years and was done, needing space and didn't know what she wanted.
There are aspects to what she says that have led friends and family to say she is having a MLC but I do know that I played my part in her getting to this stage.
Because kids are involved we are in contact every few days for handovers, looking for advice on what strategy to pursue based on my situation.
Looking forwards to replies