Ghost , as the others have said the L is for you. I going to be blunt here , if W stays and announces OM what do you do then. ? Roll over and let her see someone else while you babysit the kids
Of course your still spinning but you need to slow down. Your worth someone's love and not scraps that W may or may not feed yo
What message will her staying give the kids , what state will your mind be in when W goes out to her clubs and comes home at 3 or 4am or not at all
this is a tough time but you have to deal with it. I'm sorry but your clinging on to a M that's gone Maybe one day a new M might start but maybe not
You need to see the lawyer , you need separate for your mental health
You love you kids obviously and you need to put them first and living in a house with the tension yours has and will have is no environment for children
Just my opinion Ghost Your in a lot of pain but this route will only make it worse
