Quote: But, then again, I'm one of those sticking by my LD wife.
If I would have been on this site 4 years ago, I would have said the same thing and would never imagined that I would feel this way today. I was fully convinced that it is the honorable thing to do the eyes of my family, friends and marriage vows. It took a dying parent who is feeling remorse about his life, combined with turning 35, combined with being approached by other women, to make me realize that I should be getting more out of my marriage.
Unless you plan on posting here for moral support for the rest of your life, you probably need to be ready to have a serious talk with your W. You shuold always initiate with the "vision" of a "great marriage". If she (like in my case) thinks that the marriage is already great, then you need to go to plan B. which is to also include that you won't stick around for anything less. A little shock is required to wake them up to the fact that a marriage requires real work sometimes.
Would my life be worse after a D? Absolutely. My W has so many positive qualities that it would probably be impossible to replace her. Would I leave just to find some more sex? absolutely not. BUT, you can only take rejection so much before it starts to break your spirit and turn you into a bloody carcass. The rejection is making me confused and pissed, especially when I have PTA moms flirting with me more than my W. If you aren't feeling the pull now, you will someday when it feels like your "love engine" is running without oil.
Sorry to sound like an attack.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
