Well, it mightn't be a bad idea IMHO - some of your statements above are saturated in codependency....I have no life without her...etc...I do think it's something to explore.

If she chooses to stay with grotty OW for some time - then dang - that's up to her and of course you have a life to live without her. I do think we all need to get ourselves to the point of knowing that. I certainly have, but it does take time and effort, and many frustrations and disappointments along the way...but it is great to know there is a good life to be lived - regardless - of what our WAS's may be up to. That's up to them. Living our lives as they have become is up to us.

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus