It feels like a merry go round the last few days have been calm with nothing being eiscussed by either of us,W has still not contacted an estate agent to have the house valued and she even said yesterday that if all three of our children still want to remain in the house together and want this ....then even tho she does not want this she will stay in house seperated from me ....this is not the life that I want I want us to find a path back together.

I have to do the very best for my family and I still want what is best for all of us and when I say us I still include my W in that why do I stil care.

I would rather do nothing and remain in this limbo than face the consequence of only seeing my daughter and other childre part time three times a week if I am,lucky

Whilst I have my children then my W is also arround but she is not really here in any loving mannor and just feels like she is trying to get more and more distant.

Her not talking to me txting me wanting to be with e is a choice that she is making

I am [censored] weak she does not love me she did but not now and here,I go into spin mode

Why can I not just accept that it is over and stop clinging on to hope that in time she will come around

So Do nothing and remain as I am .....will this change anything ....or do something and loose the life I have ...for something better or worse ?

I,am scared about the future in so any ways

I do not want to be alone,without a loving partner to make me feel complete but I do not wat someone new

I have booked an appointment,with a soliciter and I wonder if we should both go have the conversation together.

I know it is about protecting me ...I do want to listen I do try and listen however every step is a step closer to being on my own


Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.