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[Zues126]

Ty, I'm not an expert in boundaries, but I will try to give you my guidelines.

Your boundaries with WW should be very similar to what they would look like with a co-worker or neighbor. Professional and friendly if the exchange is polite and appropriate. Responsive and attentive if there is an emergency. Distant, cautious, or non-responsive if things are inappropriate, disrespectful, or manipulative.

I would also say that your boundaries should transcend your emotions and any desire to R. Your emotions will change. Your desire to R may change. Your boundaries should be steady. So don't try to 'show her your changes', 'win her back', or 'teach her a lesson'...all of those desires will come and go. Your boundaries are for you, and shouldn't flex based on where you are in your grieving process.

So if she mentioned the check engine light came on, the first time I might have waited a few hours, then sent back something like 'bummer. hope it's an easy fix.' Because if I got that text from a co-worker that's probably what I'd reply, all the while thinking it was odd. If they texted me again, well, then I'd have to firm up the boundary and either not reply, or reply with something slightly more indicative of the fact it wasn't my problem like 'I work with Jerry over at 5th street repair. He's always been good to me on stuff like this. Wish I could do more to help and hope it gets handled quickly.' If she replied again I wouldn't respond unless the topic changed.

I dunno. Just my initial thoughts.