When in the dating world many years ago, most women act like they like sex. Turns out that half of them are lying. So what warning signs are there that would indicate that she will go LD, that way I know which women to avoid like the plague.
I think that if the sex is good in the beginning, that the romance and variety would have to be maintained to keep the desire high. I highly doubt that anyone on this site can honestly say that their W became LD without some help from us. But knowing what we know now, don't you think that we we would be much more vigilant in our own behavior and in our communication with future partners? I think communicating a vision of a life together will give you some clues. Throw some sexpectations and judge the reaction.
In essence, it's a gamble. IMHO.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
Having only ML to one woman in my life, I can tell you there are definitely HD men who are monogamous. But, then again, I'm one of those sticking by my LD wife.
"I'm sure they're out there but the ones with obvious signs of HD within the first couple of dates will probably have other issues that you would run from. No woman is going to advertise that she is HD except on adultfriendfinder.com."
Not all of us have to advertise on that website, so I beg to differ. Lots of us HD women have been faithful to our LD or ND husbands for the same reasons that you guys are faithful to your wives. We love them even if it is not reciprocated like we need it to be. We HOPE that things can change for the better. We try to keep that smile on our faces and not pressure them even though the lack of affection kills us.
Not all HD women are nutcase nymphos or insensitive or have issues that should put them in the looney bin. I think that there are more of us out here than you know. We have been conditioned to be cautious so that we are not labeled sluts, whores, or loose women or worse. Men with our appetites are called studs, ladykillers and the like...
What a difference the terminology makes. For the women, it is derogatory and demeaning and for the men, it is a compliment and a positive thing... Cultural differences that we know to be cautious about so we can live normal lives...
Quote: We HOPE that things can change for the better. We try to keep that smile on our faces and not pressure them even though the lack of affection kills us.
Yeah, but in my sitch I have gone from LD to HD and now she's the LD one. Or at least with me. She used to say I was faking it, but after being persistant here argument for not ML is that there's too much pain. So now we're both caught in a rut.
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." – Lao Tzu
Quote: But, then again, I'm one of those sticking by my LD wife.
If I would have been on this site 4 years ago, I would have said the same thing and would never imagined that I would feel this way today. I was fully convinced that it is the honorable thing to do the eyes of my family, friends and marriage vows. It took a dying parent who is feeling remorse about his life, combined with turning 35, combined with being approached by other women, to make me realize that I should be getting more out of my marriage.
Unless you plan on posting here for moral support for the rest of your life, you probably need to be ready to have a serious talk with your W. You shuold always initiate with the "vision" of a "great marriage". If she (like in my case) thinks that the marriage is already great, then you need to go to plan B. which is to also include that you won't stick around for anything less. A little shock is required to wake them up to the fact that a marriage requires real work sometimes.
Would my life be worse after a D? Absolutely. My W has so many positive qualities that it would probably be impossible to replace her. Would I leave just to find some more sex? absolutely not. BUT, you can only take rejection so much before it starts to break your spirit and turn you into a bloody carcass. The rejection is making me confused and pissed, especially when I have PTA moms flirting with me more than my W. If you aren't feeling the pull now, you will someday when it feels like your "love engine" is running without oil.
Sorry to sound like an attack.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
