I Think it's Way Too Late

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Hi Sparks,
Thanks for your thoughts.
You might have missed it - but this isn't even my W!

This is her assistant! Yes, she's acted as a proxy for the W, for the past few weeks only far more obnoxious. Is this crazy or what? At first I thought it was just that she was being protective of her job, and I made sure she didn't feel she had to choose sides. But it quickly devolved into this terrible passive-aggressive vicious ad hominem attacks.

I thought it was a bit weird that she looks at them 10 days later. I was not happy that after all that work she couldn't say "thx" or something. Nope, nada. And my saying "th-th-that's all folks!" was whining. Ok, so be it.

I just wish I could be communicating with the W instead. At least I wouldn't have a "translator" between us.

Tim buddy, you're right. When I talked with J, I just told him the facts, no opinions and let him know in no uncertain terms that there is 2 sides to everything. But the few people I have talked to - that know both of us are shocked at her behavior and can't believe it's her.

I felt so good after I talked with him. I cannot tell you. I don't know what the W is telling people, but I'm so happy I had a chance to at least introduce the possibility of another reality before she did. And I can't do things like this unless it's face to face.

I know that all of the W's close friends have already sided with her - and I've gone from being the sweetest guy in the world to the worthless anti-social screaming monster. Ok, I get it. You found a real man, somebody that makes you feel like a real woman.

But as Sandi says - the WW becomes a different person. And she is. It was like a switch - once she threw it the person I knew was completely gone.

But I'll say one thing. If this D and the W's twisted stories begin to threaten my ability to actually make a living - all bets are off.

I will let some key people know my side - just a few facts. 1) a near year long affair 2)lawyered up with no notice and went after everything 3)locked me out of the house 4) won't even let me see the dog. And ask them to feel free to ask her about any of these 4 points.

Oh yeah, and 5) accepted a pearl necklace from my 89 year old Mother for Christmas knowing she was filing for D 2 weeks later. (that's a good one)

Because I not only need to look after myself, but my Mother. She's the only family I have left. I'm an only child, my Father committed suicide in 1985 and most relatives on both sides of the family are gone. I'm it. That's why losing the IL's hurts so much - they were my adopted family.

I'm actually thinking of answering the assistant back:
"I pray for you and your Father every night", which I do.

Her Father is ill, and while she's been very good at rubbing me and other people the wrong way, I still love her. She's got a bad heart, she's got a lot of self-esteem issues (she used to be a knockout cheerleader in HS) and I still consider her a friend. Just one who has lost her way.

I could easily, easily throw some insults her way about her looks, her weight, etc.. And it would upset her greatly. And a few years ago? I would have.

But now it would upset me just as much as her. It hurts me to think about how full of rage they must be.

I will pray twice as hard for her and her Dad tonight, as well as my lovely W and my little dog. And for you guys too, thank you for being here.