WW, My Addiction, Patience, and Hope - III

[Zues126]

I hate it when parents say 'kids are resilient', because usually that is used to excuse selfishly tearing apart their lives. The truth is that divorce is a permanent lifelong trauma that will not only affect them forever directly, it will impact their relationships, and those of their children as well. It is destructive for generations and causes more pain than we can put a figure on.

That said...they ARE resilient, and they will grow to be happy and healthy, and even if their marriages too end in divorce, they will recover from those experiences as you will.

All I can compare it too is if they were permanently in a wheelchair. Of course they will miss out on experiences that can't be replaced. But that doesn't mean they won't live full lives.

I am not minimizing that loss. I just want you to know that my children are having some amazing times with me right now, see my thread. The fact that I am not with their mom is irrelevant, we are having so much fun it hardly matters. I'm not pretending it didn't happen, and I make time for them to talk to me when it bothers them. But this is the turf we have to play on, so I say bring it on and let's play some ball!

Hang in T.