Beginning of the End

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Tim,

That is a very interesting question that you have proposed: do you detach or check in with occasional texts (because you think detaching triggers emotional outbursts)? Being newer to DB'ing texting seems to go against what is recommended, but they also say to try to do opposite of what you would normally do. So, maybe it is worth a try and gauge your progress with that?

Your WAS seems similar to mine in that after he has a "meltdown", he usually can calm down, get over it and act like everything is normal again. I was pretty distant in our M, too (putting the kids before H and M), so I am interested to hear what others have to say about your proposal. I do feel like my H is responding to me not being angry, but I worry that he is just responding because he wants to get over his guilt and move straight to being friends. It is definitely a fine line to walk. I am anxious to see what others say and, if you try it, see what results you get.

I am sorry you are feeling down tonight. I do understand how some interaction pulls you right back in. I was that way while the H was in Florida. NC for 4 days was tough! I am so proud of the DB'ers that can do it for extended times. Hopefully, you can build on the positive car ride from yesterday!