"I ask myself what is keeping me here? It is because I feel guilty because of what I did to contribute to marital demise... But do you think your actions warranted wife's current actions? I am asking myself that too."
I am very disappointed in how my wife's behavior but I can not judge her actions. I made mistakes, I behaved badly and I can't take it back. She feels what she feels. She is a product of her experiences. I accept her and how she handles her life.
JuJu, we stay because we want to. It's that simple. I stand by my wife during her struggle. I will stay as long as she is uncertain of her path. When it is clear to her I will support her choice. I love her and want her to do whats right for her. Will I be heartbroken, most certainly, but for me that will be the time to let go, to move on. I will hold my head up and know I did everything I could to keep the marriage alive.
Only you JuJu can decide when enough is enough. Your supporters cannot decide this for you. This is your choice, do not make it until you are ready. When the pain of staying is greater then the pain of going, things will become self evident. Peace
