Just to add a little bit thorn. from what I'm told OM was done since around the holidays. It was just the no contact recently on that front. XF does have some other stuff going on but if I say what it's a dead giveaway to my identity. Not many people ever have these things happen so I'll just say she is fine but she is worried about somebody close to her. This week will tell the story on that (not another OM or anything like that, just to be clear).
I deep down feel like this is all just confusion on her end, it's just some drastic measures to take and some deep things to say to still be wishy washy... If I were in her shoes, I would like to think that I would know where life is going before making changes like that?
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Got to do a bit of validating on the XF's situation a short while ago. It just seems futile at this point. She was very pleasant but the words of yesterday kept ringing in my head... I just don't know what to think
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Just venting a bit, talked to S4 for a while. XF was very short and distant when I asked a question, yet wouldn't get far enough away from the phone to let S4 breathe. The whole time she was right there, which is fine, but if you want your space give me a bit of my own to talk to my son.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I wouldn't say angry, more frustrated... There may be some anger but that's not the overwhelming one. It just [censored] to see and hear what I did a few days ago and POOF, back to square one. It's a vicious cycle and I'm honestly getting really tired of it. A month or so ago, I felt like I was off this rollercoaster. I was talkIng to a new girl and things seemed to be going decent there. I kinda blew her off because I started feeling differently than I thought and didn't want to complicate things.
This is the most confusing thing I have ever dealt with in my life. I usually thrive in situations like this and figure out a way to make things work when nobody else can. Not necessarily in relationships but I can take anything apart and put it together better. Make it go faster, higher or whatever the goal is. This just has me stumped.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I know what you mean Uphill. I am generally calm and can think my way through almost any problem and yet I have no idea what to do in this case. I have never been so lost. I have never had these feelings of complete and utter helplessness. All these feelings make it so frustrating and occupy my mind nearly 24/7. Even my dreams.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
Tim, cool under fire is my second nature. My job takes me into customers homes with very delicate work. I have to work through any problems with nothing but a piece of clear plastic separating me from the homeowner. No matter how big the problem is, I can't freak out or let on to the customer until they can see the final product.
My hobby, same kind of thing. Racing dirt track is the game. Figuring out those monsters is a mind boggling thing. You have to hurry, make the right calls and still do it everything on the car with surgeons precision. There is never much time to spare and even less room for error. Basically every night at the track, I have to be level headed while having a panic attack... Sounds weird but it is the biggest rush!
Then we have waywards... Haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
And I haven't figured those out yet! All the people here are great and more than helpful. The problem I run into is actually doing what I'm told. I'll do good for so long and then set myself back. Emotions are our worst enemy. They will get us every time. Right now I feel like just asking XF wtf she is thinking. If she needs me to pull her head out of her a$$. And smack the fog out of her head. But as we all know, that is not gonna work haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I'm making my life out of literally seeing everyone on the worst day of theirs. I'm self assured, confident and proud.
As me anything about WH, I have *no effing clue* I'm literally shooting in the dark, hoping I hit something.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
