Wow...I would get out of that room, Vise. Seriously...I couldn't imagine holding my emotions in check if that type of convo was going on. Protect yourself. Your emotions, and your ability to respond wisely.
I have worked with children and adolescents for quite a while. I can honestly say that bad parenting (bailing out, not allowing children to face consequences or fail, giving when they should withhold, and vice versa) creates very unstable and unproductive adults. Not saying that is your W...but 'spoiled' adults act just like 'spoiled' kids. It IS absolutely possible for them to grow & change though....don't give up on that just yet, my friend.
Ojap M 13 T 15 D 11 D 11 D 9 BD #1: ILYBNILWY 09/2015 BD #2: W asks for S 12/2015 ---------- Currently: Limbo