WW, My Addiction, Patience, and Hope - III

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The lawyers are now talking.

Wife's L wants to not go to the judge. That we can work out things 'amicably'.

This is now 99% headed for D.
I have no clue how wife can rationalize her behavior, or probably losing her church... it's going to be tough.

What do I want, and what can I live with? That's the question.
Do I want the house? No.
Do I want custody? Yes. Could I live with 50/50? Yes.
Do I want W out of the house? Y. Could I live with her for the next 6 months in house? Y, but it's going to be tough.

I'm taking it one day at a time.

W has told kids and pastor, as well as friends, that OM is 'just a friend'... a friend she texts and calls for hours during the day, has professed love to, and has wanted to have sex with for months. Only the distance stops her from getting what she wants.
Learned that OM is still in the heat of battle in his D, so another 6 months at least until he's free of his marriage. So, a married man, lonely, reaches out for my hurting wife, gets her heart to commit to him, with 3 hours between them. I looked at IL iPass usage - my W never went to IL. So, he either came up, or they haven't met since Sept. That's just an amazing about of non-contact for her and him, but I guess an EA is an EA, and her heart is all the way there.

She's making such a huge, tragic mistake. I cannot stop the train. It's so, so sad, and when I cry, it's not for W anymore - it's for the kids, and the life they could have had.