Not sure where to stand

[HopeRB]

Sorry to hijak your spot Sparks, but a wise counselor told me a few months ago that all you can do is be patient and wait for the fog to lift from their eyes and for the A to die a natural death...b/c we hope it will. Sometimes it doesn't and that hurts too. In my case, I feel like H is knee deep in his fog and has had enough time to come out of it but he just seems to believe this is his truth. So who really knows.

I'm just like you, Tim and broke, where I feel like, "What am I really doing? Why am I fighting for this man who could care less? Am I just delusional? Am I pathetic?" But I think for me its 100% that we deserve a fighting chance to try again, on both ends. I love how you put this broke:

"Keep detaching, making a life for ourselves, hoping our WAS wants to try to reconcile and, if not, at least we are the best "me" that we can be."

We all cycle between hope and despair. Yesterday morning alone I felt about 5 very different emotions. It actually drains me to the point that I need to take a mental break, but I know someone on here is going to experience piecing and reconciliation very soon...I can feel it. My friends are all wrapped up in their own stuff also Sparks, and I do all of my GALing solo too, wish we could all just GAL together!