By the way, VERY interesting that he can do this hiding behind his computer. Wonder if you asked to discuss this in person if a little boy would emerge? Or maybe a rebellious teen?
My h too is quite bold when behind a screen but when I have had to set boundaries in person he can't even look me in the eye and he's quiet as a church mouse in a corner.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced